Narcissism vs. Love

Rebuking Narcissism — Love According to Corinthians

By Anna Biela, Ph.D.

11 / 10 /2026 / VIEW ROOM / WROCLOVE

I have dated narcissists my entire life, so I can recognise narcissistic behaviour almost immediately—not necessarily because of what a person says, but because of how their behaviour makes me feel. I have learned to recognise the patterns: the manipulation, the control, the humiliation, the confusion, and the gradual erosion of self-worth.

Experience has taught me that not everything presented as love is love, and not everyone who claims to care about you has your best interests at heart.

Love is not control. Love is not humiliation. Love is not manipulation.

Love respects, protects, and recognises the dignity of another human being.

As written in 1 Corinthians 13:4–5:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”

This is the love I believe in: a love that does not seek to dominate, diminish, or destroy another person, but recognises their God-given dignity.

I rebuke narcissistic behaviour, manipulation, humiliation, and control. I choose truth over deception, compassion over cruelty, and love over domination.